Not a day goes by that I don't think about my courageous, talented, willful, humorous, caring, and beautiful friend Jenn Carlile Foley that passed away 7 years ago today from a fight with Cancer. She was only 25. I still feel a pressure in my chest whenever I think of the moment when I received the news on that hot July day back in the Summer of 2002. I remember my friend Renee calling me as I walked up Astoria Boulevard towards my apartment - a walk Jenn and I had taken back and forth time and time again - telling me that Jenn was no longer with us. Jenn and I went to college together and became even closer after I moved up to New York from Virginia. Jenn was the good time girl. She was a laugher, a kidder, a joker, a friend that everyone trusted. She also had a work ethic that astounded me and everyone she knew. Jenn was the girl that helped me more than anyone when I came up here to New York. She loved me, supported me, talked with me, cried with me - she was there for me. I didn't realize then how much I'd be able to return the favor and let her lean on me. We found a trust in each other up here in NYC that just seemed to grow. Her amazing husband Tony was by her side every single step of the way through her valiant struggle with the various doctor visits, treatments and surgeries as were her amazing Mother and Father. Speaking of her Mother - I will always remember the many bake-offs she and her mother had. They were like two peas in a pod. If you were lucky enough to visit Jenn and Tony's apartment on one of her visits, you were sure to leave the house well fed and well nourished both physically and mentally. Jenn and Tony's entire family was there for Jenn along with their army of friends. Everyone of us who knew her were crushed when she died however like Jenn would have wanted it, it enabled many of us to reconnect in magical ways. A moment that took place at her memorial service, down at Home Port where her remains would be laid to rest, still brings chills to me. A few friends had wandered out to the end of a pier to enjoy the afternoon and be with one another. One friend followed by two, followed by three, followed by a few more until the entire party of Jenn's friends were gathered there together - united - sharing the same moment for Jenn. I felt a connection like I had never ever felt. It was like she has guided us down there. I know that Jenn was looking down at us in that amazing moment smiling. Then, she was likely also saying to us "You idiots, you can all be on the pier at once! Move it! Now!" Jenn was an amazing Stage Manager and when she told you to move your ass you did it with quickness! A photo was captured that day of the moment and it hangs in my apartment in a place where I see it daily. It reminds me of the love that she taught us and the bond all of her friends now share. I miss that girl so much. We were all lucky to have known her during her short life. I'm blessed to have shared so many memories with her family, her friends, her loved ones - all which we hold dear in our hearts. If you are reading this and knew Jenn, please add a comment to this post. Share a memory or story or just say "I FREAKIN' MISS HER!". Jenn's spirit lives on strong after her she is gone. We all know this and all feel this. Miss ya, girl. xx.